So for your perusal I present to you the rules for teen society today, as my teens explained it to me. They are not endorsing these to be the rules they follow, just ones they have observed. We did have great conversation about how impossible and contradictory they are. We also chatted about how they make you fit in a box in a time of your life your supposed to be exploring your strengths and figuring out what makes you tick yet teen society makes you do it with-in an "impossible and contradictory" set of peer pressurized rules.
You need to have sex early (by age 13).
If you have sex early you are a slut.
Don't die a virgin.
Don't tell your parents ANYTHING.
Don't tell your parents the truth, if you do tell your parents the truth, there is something wrong with you.
Close friends call and text each other, everyone else you text.
You need a boyfriend (BF)/Girlfriend (GF), PERIOD! You can't NOT have a BF/GF.
If you break up with your BF/GF you only have a week to recover, then you need to find a new one.
Feminism rocks, your Husband/BF has to respect you, but you don't have to respect them. If you do it make you weak. You can respect him "in private" but not "in public."
You can lie about your friends as long as they don't find out, but they always find out.
You are not "cool" if you don't have a phone.
You have to be on social media.
You can text at any time of the day.
If you don't get a text back it means they hate you... unless they are busy... but really it's because they hate you.
Don't break up over text its rude.
If you show to much skin you are a slut.
If you don't show enough skin you are a nun.
If you are a boy and you stare at my body you are being disrespectful, I'm a girl and I can express myself in what I wear. To tell me I look like "Fill in blank here" is "fill in blank" shaming me.
If you are not smart enough you are a "blonde."
If you are really smart you are a "know it all."
It's best to be numb/indifferent in general.
If you are male and you are kind and like art and ballet you know classy stuff you are "gay." But you can't use gay as a negative thing if your around gay people.
If you have chores your parents are weird/crazy/strict.
If you have chores, you have to act as if you don't.
You can talk trash about people and swear at people but you can't use words like "white, black hispanic," that's rude.
You can't make blonde jokes.
You need to be supportive about homosexuality and transgenderism.
Break the Rules
We discussed how pop culture and teens created these rules. They noticed how very few of them translate to adulthood. Ditch the drama kids. You will survive and reach adulthood.