This morning during my hot tea, a friend texted me this link http://libertyforcaptives.com/2013/04/17/pastoral-bullies-how-to-tell-if-a-pastor-domineers/
It was a great wake up read.
Some things that struck me right away were the similarities I found in his description and how I felt while "under authority." Here are some excerpts from the blog post.
He domineers by misinterpreting and misapplying to himself the OT command: “Don’t touch God’s anointed.”
I covered this one over at Take My Spear Please!